We’ve Become Those People

My husband and I used to go out to dinner a lot. We would usually sit at the bar and spend several hours drinking wine and eating appetizers for meals. We rarely sat at a table and would just enjoy the experience of sampling food and drinks.

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Not my actual child, but you get the point

Now no more bar for us- we need a table that can fit a highchair. Also, you probably want to stick us somewhere in the back where we won’t be a nuisance. But not too far back because one of the kids may open the emergency door and set off the very loud alarm.

So last night, as I sat on the toilet at the restaurant, listening to the screeching alarm going off, I totally knew that was our table causing the commotion. We were out to dinner with friends that had two boys, 4 and 6. So I did not burst out of the bathroom worried there was some sort of actual emergency. I may have actually lingered a moment or two longer than usual, hoping the alarm would be off by the time I stepped out.

Back in before baby days, we would be at the bar, rolling eyes and laughing at the hapless parents trying to enjoy a meal and wrangle their children. Most likely thinking what a bunch of brats they were and how if we had kids they would be sitting quietly like little angels.

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Oh how the mightly have fallen…right off their barstools.

 

Our Island Adventure

We spent the weekend on Jekyll Island, GA, for their 2016 ComicCon. I was a cosplay guest so I had a table all weekend and Sean was on daddy duty. We did manage to break away on the last day and check out the famous Driftwood Beach, where they recently filmed some scenes from the Walking Dead.

The beach was pretty amazing, though Keelan was mostly interested in throwing sand. I’ve been wanting to visit for a while, but it’s an hour and half north of us so the comic con event was the extra incentive I needed to finally make it happen.

1toddlerwrangleWe stayed at the beachfront Days Inn, so of course I had visions of going out and enjoying the sunrises and taking some pretty family photos. Keelan had other ideas. Lesson number one with kids: nothing ever turns out the way you have it planned in your head. Lesson number two: never let it stop you from trying because it is still worth it!

The con was small, but fun. I dressed as Sub Zero on Saturday and Wonder Woman on Sunday. Keelan had fun looking at all the costumes. He had to go say hi to all the Stormtroopers. We even found Santa Claus and then found Deadpool dressed as Santa, so we got our Christmas card pics taken care of. Photo of that coming soon 🙂

Like a Toddler in a China Shop

In my big effort to “get out there and do stuff,” I signed us up for a handprint ornament class at one of those make it and paint it pottery places. In other words, I took a toddler to a fragile land of no-no filled with colorful animals, flowers and even tanks and video game controllers that he can’t touch! In case you are wondering how fun it is with a 19 month old, well on a scale of 1-10…it’s maybe a 3. And that’s if you just really like arts and crafts. And chasing toddlers. We spent 10% of our time on the handprint and 90% of the time it was me chasing him around going “No Touch! No Touch!”

It all sounded so lovely – a story time with snack and drink, followed by creating a pottery piece that went with the story. Unfortunately they started with the crafty part, so by the time the story time came he was WAY over it. Then the snack and drink were terribly inappropriate for his age group. Little hard gummy bear type things and juice in a small Styrofoam cup that he immediately grabbed and tried to crush in his tiny toddler hands as it sloshed all over my lap. I quickly ate all the gummy bears, took the shot of juice and then gave him a pouch from home. Oddly enough the only thing he didn’t try to crush was his handprint. I could barely make a dent. I was starting to worry I was hurting him, trying to cram his hand into the clay.

Other highlights include a kid peeing his pants in the corner and a mom who thought a loud airplane might be a tornado. I’m serious. She went outside to check the clouds.

So in just a couple weeks we will get a lovely $18 handprint turned Santa ornament to mark this occasion. I’m glad we tried it, but it will be a little while before we try it again. It is making me reconsider the $90 art class I’ve been eyeing. Maybe save that for a couple months from now…

I’m glad I didn’t stick around for the footprint (an additional $18) because I found this nifty idea online on how you can do the exact same thing at home for free:

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The NeverEnding Story and Its Never Ending Impact

My son and I go to a kid’s gym type play place called My Gym once a week. He loves to play in the ball pit. Today he tried licking them all. I’m just going to ignore that and move on.

So as he was sinking slowly and I was pretending to save him, I was like “Artax noooooo…..” because all I could think of was Atreyu losing his horse in the Swamps of Sadness. I have not seen this movie in years, but it made quite an impression me growing up. I loved The NeverEnding Story with a passion. I also had a massive crush on Atreyu. And as an animal lover, I found it heart-wrenching when Artax just gave up and sank.

It got me wondering, what movies will make such an impact on my son? What movies have made a huge impact on you guys? Is anyone else still sad about Artax? lol

I can’t wait to share my favorite movies with him when he gets a little older. I just might have to make a “horses are actors too” disclaimer before the swamp scene. And I know he’s totally going to want a Luck Dragon. I still do!

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I Don’t Know How to Not Work

I’m currently in the process of closing my business I’ve run for the past 11 years. I grew it from a little kitchen table eBay enterprise to a real brick and mortar boutique. It was something I dreamed about doing since I was little. I wanted to grow up and own a costume store, so that’s what I did.

I’ve always had my own business. I started at 6, coloring rocks and selling them door-to-door. I can only imagine if there was an Internet back then, I’d have a rock decor empire by now. I started this business making costumes myself and then expanded into retail and then manufacturing my own line of corsets and costume items.

I always said if I had a baby, I’d just keep right on working, and I did just that for the first year. In fact, I couldn’t wait to get back to work. Then a funny thing happened and I couldn’t wait to get back home. Instead of thinking about work all the time, I was looking at photos posted by the daycare and seeing my son playing, painting, learning and doing all the things I wanted to share with him. And here I was, stressing out over other people’s orders and watching my son grow through pictures.

So I decided to take on a new job. If I was going to be a stay at home mom, then darn it, I was going to embrace it and become CEO SAHM. And to do that, I needed to cut out all the distractions and close my store and main website. But, I also can’t stop doing what I love! So I will continue to make costume things for my Etsy shop when I can. I’m not pressuring myself to crank out a huge inventory, or take a lot of custom orders. I plan to just go back to making what I want and posting it for sale.

And if you happen to like costumes, corsets or cosplay – check out the site before I shut it down Dec. 15th. Everything is marked down below wholesale, and there is a still a good bit left:  www.3MusesBoutique.com

 

It’s all about the activities

Since I don’t intend on just sitting around the house, I am on the hunt for activities for my son and I to do now that he is home with me. There’s always the scramble to get the house/work/life stuff done, but I don’t want him sitting around watching me try to get things done. I’m intent on experiencing things together. So I spent this morning scouring the Internet for toddler-friendly activities that are also free or pretty cheap. I’m trying to save money on daycare and not make it up in pricey activities! I actually had a great (and free) morning at the park, where we jogged around the lake a couple times and then he played so much that he took a 2 1/2 hour nap. Score!!

So far I’ve found:

  • Barnes & Nobles has free story time
  • All the local libraries have free storytime and arts/crafts
  • Our museums have a free day but not sure how excited he’d be about that
  • The science museum has fun stuff but he’s still too young for the events I saw posted
  • There’s a bouncy place called Rebounderz that has special toddler times for $8
  • There’s an art class I really want to do called Color Splash but you have to buy the whole month and it’s $90-$110! I wish they just had per class options.

So, I’d love to hear from other SAHM’s about where they find activities and what I should check into!

Diary of a SAHM – Day…I already lost count

If you are going to start the stay at home mom thing, I really recommend doing it around the holidays. There’s so much going on and family visiting, and visits to family, that you don’t even realize you’re deep in the SAHM trenches just yet. You have people around. I imagine weeks from now things will be different. Much different. Probably more like next week.

I have thrown myself into the “planning of things.” I joined a Facebook mom group that does lots of activities and a running club for military spouses called Stroller Warriors. And we already do My Gym every week. (it’s a kid’s gym thing)

In the middle of all this I’m still trying to close my website store. My last day open is Dec. 15th. And then I have to move out of my office and workshop and figure out how to work from home. Guess I really enjoy challenging myself!

Hope everyone had a Happy Thanksgiving! I have a ton to be thankful for this year and should probably do a thoughtful post full of love and turkey but this is all I managed to fit in. Got to squeeze in renting X-Men Apocalypse tonight because I am horribly behind on all the new cool movies.

 

Diary of a SAHM – Day 3

I think my son is on a hunger strike. He doesn’t seem to like anything except grapes and oranges. Maybe he’s gone fruitarian? I tried to bribe him with cheese puffs just to get something else in him and he crushed them in his baby hands like a tiny Hulk and threw them at the dogs.

Other than that, our day went well. I’m supposed to be reviewing this magic Sleepy Baby lightbulb but can’t find a lamp to use for it so am failing miserably so far. It is supposed to help them go to sleep or go back to sleep if they wake up in the middle of the night. As with most  moms, I’m willing to try anything that encourages sleep.

Looking forward to Thanksgiving with the family. Doing something a little different this year and going to my mom’s for the first time since we’ve been married. A visit with mom is usually blog posting gold, lol. If I don’t post anything more between now and turkey day, hope you all have a wonderful Thanksgiving!

"Just a sec honey...Mommy has to cut this up into little pieces, so the vacuum can pick it up easier."

Diary of a SAHM: A Descent into Momness

I was going to create an entire new blog site for this but then considered, just how many blogs can I create and then ignore? Might as well put them all together! My new section, instead of the previous “Mama Blog” category, will be The SAHM Diary. I chronicled my IVF and pregnancy to keep my sanity while immersing myself in something crazy. I figure I probably am going to need something like that again as I navigate this new Stay at Home Mom (SAHM) stuff. My first few entries are all on one post because I wanted to make sure I was going to keep up with it.

11/16/2016
It’s 3PM, Wednesday.
Friday will be my son’s last day of daycare. I’ve decided to close my boutique and website I’ve run for 11 years and become a stay at home mom (SAHM.)
Who knows when I’ll have another midweek 3PM quiet house all to myself again? Just one of the things running through my brain. That, along with, am I crazy? What am I thinking? Will I slowly go crazy? Will I ever get to go out again? What if I want a pedicure?
Then I remind myself that my son Keelan is 19 months and growing fast. It took 7 years of trying to conceive (ttc), fertility treatments, praying, voodoo (j/k), just to get him here. Why am I still working non-stop just to pay someone else to raise him? I won’t get this chance again.
So I figure now is the time to embrace my inner domestic goddess. Mom it up. Mom it out. Go full mom on this thing. Just mom the hell out of it.
And I thought it might be fun to chronicle the whole…decent into momness.

11/17/2016
Went for a leisurely sushi and sake excursion with the husband, in the middle of the afternoon, just because we could…one last time. (at least before a baby sitter is required) Because leisurely meals and toddlers do not go well together. They really don’t even exist. It’s a lot of shoving food in your mouth hole while you take turns entertaining your toddler table tyrant. It was lovely and I will remember it fondly.

11/18/2016
The day is here! It was bittersweet as we said our goodbyes. His daycare and the people there were really great. We will miss them. I’m sure there are some days I will be crying to get them back. But I’m also very excited to get this new chapter started.

11/19/2016
Day 1
Since our first SAHM day was a Saturday, it hasn’t really sunken in. He’d be home all day with me anyway. Sean had to work all weekend so it was just us two. We actually had a really great day. Went to Toys R Us and then lunch at Arby’s. I thought I was winning at lunch and he was eating a lot of roast beef until we got up to leave and I found it all on the floor. I did try out a booster seat instead of high chair for the first time and I think he enjoyed being at the table next to me. Now if I could just get him to eat something besides Puffs I’d be feeling a little more successful at the good mom thing.
He took a good nap (yay!) and then we went for a long walk where I connected with a couple other SAHM’s in the neighborhood and made sure they knew I was joining the club. We are going to need to plan some activities.
Decided to push my luck a bit and do a quick grocery run. Got lucky and scored the racecar cart. Everything is better in a racecar. I kept things realistic by running down the aisles and tossing things in the cart so we made pretty good time.
Home in time for a good dinner (that went on the floor and in his lap) and then a nice bath (followed by naked cavorting and vehement diaper refusal).
All in all…a very good day!

11/20/16
Day 2
DEAR GOD WHAT HAVE I DONE?!?!?!?!
OK, it’s not really that bad. But it is sinking in that my days will be radically different. We just have to find our groove.
I did discover that cheesy sweet potato mac is delicious. I mean, it made Keelan cry and half went on the ground and in his pants. But the part I salvaged and ate myself was delicious.
I also set-up the new category and finally posted my first entries. Looking forward to getting back into the writing groove as well.

My blog about not having time to blog

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Read the shirt- No Excuses! lol

I thought time went by fast before having a baby, but wow, things are in warp speed now. I am trying to figure out how I managed to blog nearly once a day when I was pregnant. I am pretty sure I was still busy then, and I know I wasn’t feeling all that great, but still, I blogged all about it! I loved it so much I thought it would be great to start a mommy blog.

 

You know what I don’t have time for now that I’m a mommy? Quiet moments in front of the computer required for blogging. My quiet moments are few and far between, usually coming after 7PM when K goes down to sleep and then usually the last thing I want to do  is sequester myself in my office and get back on the computer.

So to be honest, instead of blogging in the evenings I am drinking wine and nibbling cheese while cooking dinner. Thinking back, I suppose I couldn’t drink wine and certainly did not feel like being on my bloated feet to cook dinner while pregnant, so I traded that for sitting and blogging. Probably also while nibbling cheese.

I am working on finding the magical balance to fit it all in. (Aren’t we all?) Until then I’ll be updating sporadically. I’m not giving up on my mommy blog vision…just taking it one blog at a time.

-CK