If you’d like to skip to the end for the answers, it’s because they’re kids. And no matter what my mother says, they are all little monsters at times. It’s possible my mom got off easy and I was actually the quiet little well-behaved angel she describes. But she set the bar pretty high with the way I judged children. And of course now every one of those judgements is flying back in my face as complete crap while I watch my son run from room to room squealing and whacking things with a stick.
That time our friends came to visit and their two sons managed to disable our TV remote, break a wine glass, set the fire alarm off at dinner and later grab our toothbrushes off the counter?
I get it.
That kid I saw dragged off the playground today screaming at the top of his lungs? Been there.
Also that time I just couldn’t understand why our 4 year old cousin grabbed a hurling stick and just started bashing it on the ground until it busted? Well I have seen that reenacted right here at home.
So all these “awful” things that had me horrified about these unmanageable crazy children…well now I realize they were just being children. And every time I realize that, I feel a little sheepish for my previously uninformed judgements. I don’t even question the crazy anymore. I understand now it’s just some childhood instinct that kicks in and they act insane. I also understand that it is just going to keep happening no matter how “good” anyone’s parenting skills might be.
Because they’re kids. And That’s why they do that.
This week I stumbled across a local bean roaster right here in Jax Beach, set the first paver stone down in my new front patio, learned (sort of) how to use a curling wand and introduced my son to the wonders of the bowling alley.
My week in review 6/17 -6/23
Psst…you got the beans? My husband loves fancy coffee and grinds his own beans every morning, so I’m always looking for new or unique coffee for him. I ran across First Crack Coffee Co while booking our dinner reservations at Doro and loved the fact it was locally roasted beans, right here in Jacksonville Beach. I messaged about getting a couple bags, and then the next day we met up in a nearby parking lot to make the purchase. Have to say, that was a first, lol. But my husband said they were delicious, and on top of being local and great quality, they also cost less than Starbucks beans so I may be making another parking lot appointment soon!
Beachy waves like magic – I tried a curling wand for the first time and loved it! The curl is closer to my natural waves than the traditional clamp style curling iron. The one I tried is the Nume 25mm Classic Wand with a tourmaline infused ceramic coated barrel that actually makes glossy curls. It also comes with a heat resistant glove, but unfortunately I didn’t discover that until after I had already done my whole head and nearly burned myself about 10 times!
I got to set the first paver stone down in our new patio/fire pit area. My husband and a neighbor are doing a total DIY project on a grand scale. When we moved in, the front yard center piece was a 6 ft. tall, five tier concrete fountain, with a pineapple on top, spray painted black and filled with fake flowers because it didn’t work. I was lucky enough to sell that monstrosity off on CraigsList.
We’ve totally been taking advantage of Kids Bowl Free this summer! Bowling alleys all across the US are giving kids two free games a day all summer! All you have to do is sign up at KidsBowlFree.com. You can even add two family members for around $20. There’s also an app you can download and then you don’t have to worry about printing out coupons.
Happy Monday everyone! Hope you had a good week. Since I didn’t want to stick to doing a weekly round-up on a specific day or a specific number, I just decided to keep doing what works best for me- a random mishmash posting when I feel like it! No rules! lol
My Week in Review 5/28 – 6/3
Rediscovering childhood favorites- We went to Art in Park this weekend, where unfortunately it was boiling hot with about 110% humidity (yay, Florida summer!) so it was a very sweaty event. Keelan spotted someone with a blue colored treat and immediately started asking for blue ice cream. I quickly figured out it was flavored ice and thought that sounded like an amazing idea. I used to always go for the blue raspberry flavor when I was little and we’d hang out at the ball park. It was a total childhood flashback as soon as I got my first taste! I hadn’t gotten a flavored ice in over 20 years. I love the ways kids bring a little bit of your childhood back into your life.
National Donut Day was Friday, June 1st and it just happened to coincide with my first visit to The Mini Bar, a new local gourmet mini donut shop that also sells beer and wine! It also just happens to be in the same plaza as an indoor trampoline park so we had an impromptu wine and donut break before going back into the madness of the kid zone. I think we found a new tradition!
Clam shells were everywhere on the beach the past few days. Open and empty, just washing up with the tide, hundreds of them all along the shoreline. I scooped up a bunch for our shell collection. I tried researching to see if this was some kind of annual phenomenon or weird clam season but had no luck. All I managed to find out was the name of the shell is Dosinia.
It was our 16th wedding anniversary this week. Hard to believe it’s been that long! I couldn’t have picked a better partner to spend my life with. We’ve gone through a lot together and are lucky to have grown closer as we’ve changed, adapted and grown up a lot since our college days. I love our life together and all our adventures. Here’s to many more 😘
Our next big house project got underway when a big pile of dirt was delivered this week. Keelan was ecstatic about this development. I’m sure he’d rather we leave him the dirt pile, but when the pavers come in we will be turning this into a patio and fire pit.
That’s it for last week. This upcoming week is pretty open so who knows what adventure awaits! The only big thing on the calendar at the moment is next Saturday when I participate in Dream Day. I’ll be dressed as Antiope from the Wonder Woman movie. It’s a huge event for children with life-threatening medical conditions, put on with PRI Productions and the Make-a-Wish foundation. They transform their building into a fairytale wonderland for the day and I get to go help the fairytale come to life!
For many years I had a blog for my shop. Boutique news, convention wrap-ups, costume stuff, etc. So I thought I knew what I was getting into with the new blog thing, but noooooo. Just like everything else that relates to parenting, I was wrong about the Mommy Blog.
Mom blogging is a different world. There are networks, tribes, pods, loops… and you have to learn to navigate through them. It’s easy to get sucked into the networking thing and then next thing you know all you are doing is posting and liking and commenting in exchange for the same on your stuff.
And these people aren’t necessarily interested in what you are actually posting. They’re only interested in the reciprocal like or comment or share. It’s all a big numbers game where people want tons views and followers so they can be seen as an “influencer.” The more influence you appear to have, the more likely you are to get paid for things and get more free stuff.
I lasted about ten seconds on an Instagram follow loop. And most of the follows I earned from that have already unfollowed me anyway so it was a total waste of time. It seems like Twitter has a never ending supply of parent bloggers tweeting and retweeting every little thing. I’ve been pretty stingy with my blog follows, only following back the blogs that appear to have content I’m interested in reading on a regular basis.
I’ve been able to stay out of the mama drama for the most part. I participate in one Facebook group with a small group of blogging ladies that are pretty awesome. Our rules are relaxed and we haven’t had to do the dreaded Facebook ban on anyone.
I don’t plan on getting sucked into it since I don’t have the time to go leave fake likes and comments all day. And I prefer my readers to be real as well. So if you are reading this, liking and commenting, then thank you! I really enjoy reading the comments and knowing they aren’t just some reciprocal compulsion.
I still have a lot to learn in the business of mom blogging and blogging in general. My goal is to keep things fun and keep enjoying it and definitely Not get too obsessed with stats and shares and how many likes something gets. Of course I pay attention to that stuff! But really, it’s just exciting to be writing something people are actually reading. So again, thank you for being here!
*** Updated Intro – Funny thing about this post. I ran across it in my drafts and realized I’d never published it. This post is from the viewpoint of having a freshly minted two-year-old. I now have an almost three-year-old and it’s a world of difference. A lot of these toddler dreams are slowly coming true! Seems maybe they do finally come around after driving you crazy the first couple years. Oh, I’m sure I’ve still got plenty ridiculous toddler antics in store for me. But I can finally see the light at the end of the tunnel. It does get better!
*** Original post – Before I had my son, I had no idea what it was like to have a child or even be around one. I went into this whole parenting thing about as clueless as you can get. I managed to dream up all these wonderful things we would do together, and now I get to watch my son systematically destroy each sweet toddler fantasy one by one. I keep telling myself things will change as he gets older. I’m really hoping there’s a sweet spot between crazy toddler and rebellious teenager. So here’s my list of my silly mama dreams and the crushing reality.
1 – The Dream: We will read books together, he will love them and it will be magical.
The Reality: He prefers to try and eat them, kick them, always has to see the last page first and rip a few pages out for good measure. This doesn’t stop me from trying, but it did stop me from getting any more books with fragile paper pages.
2 – The Dream: We will take fun classes together like “Sway and Play Yoga.”
The Reality: He threw all of the scarves at the girls, tried to get them to chase him, then ran out of the room making dinosaur noises.
3 – The Dream: I get to dress my son up in all kinds of costumes! I finally have an awesome baby accessory.
The Reality: I can’t even get him to wear a hat more than two minutes, much less a costume. So he now has an impressive collection of costumes that just require a t-shirt.
4 – The Dream – We will go to museums and learn things! We love learning!
The Reality – We went to a neat science day at the Museum of Science and History. He didn’t want to do any of the crafts and just wanted to throw the cotton balls out of the sensory bins. And we had to go stare at the dinosaur 17 times instead of watching the cool science show.
5 – The Dream – I will raise an adventurous eater!
The Reality – My son is trying to prove you can survive on a diet of hotdogs and air. Far from adventurous, he won’t even dip his hotdog in ketchup. He hates trying anything new unless it’s chocolate in a different form, or made of a gummy bear type substance.
6 – The Dream – I will raise him to be bilingual and speak Spanish!
The Reality – Why I thought my two semesters of Spanish and being able to ask where the bathroom was qualified me to teach a child to speak Spanish is beyond me. I was super thrilled when he just started stringing English words together! I do still actually intend to teach him the basics when he gets a little older though.
7 – The Dream – I refuse to believe everything I’ve read about boys being potty trained later than girls. My son is going to be out of diapers by the time he turns two.
The Reality – Ha! Ha. Ha. Ha. Bwahahahaha. Wow was I clueless. We are heading into three and though we’ve made some progress, the only thing I can get him to do regularly is put Iron Bear on the potty. He’s like a poop surrogate I guess.
8 – The Dream – Brightly colored kid stuff will not take over my house. We will keep it tidy and neutral.
The Reality – My house has brightly colored, blinking, music playing things in every corner. You can’t go anywhere without bumping into or stepping on something that springs to life and starts making noise. And everything is rainbow colored of course.
9 – The Dream – Speaking of noisy toys, none of those for us!
The Reality – Yeah, so you may not buy your child noisy toys, but everyone else will! My cousin got my son a guitar that plays 30 different songs and my son’s favorite song is five seconds of every single one, over and over again. I can’t think of one thing I’ve done to her to have deserved this.
10 – The Dream – We will go everywhere together! I love having a little sidekick.
The Reality – I never thought there’d be a day when the highlight of my week was going grocery shopping by myself. And it’s been so long since I’ve been to an actual store to try on clothes, I’m starting to think Amazon was created for moms so they wouldn’t have to wear the same clothes the first few years.
For all my complaining, we do have plenty of good times. Even our adventures that don’t go as planned (roughly 98% of them) are still worth the effort and make for (mostly) good memories. I haven’t given up on any of these dreams, I just realize now that they all take a lot of work and nothing comes easy in the real-life parenting world. And if all this stuff did come easy for you…you probably have a girl, lol. Because I also had to accept all that stuff everyone says about having boys is TRUE. But that’s a topic for another blog…