Especially when yesterday your toddler took a 3 hour nap! I hate to say this, but I think nap time is coming to an end. I’ve been dreading this day and it’s hard to accept.
Our first year so tough. So tough. We took baby nighttime shifts and slept in the guest room so the other person could get sleep without hearing the screams on the monitor. I don’t think either one of us slept more than two consecutive hours for a year and a half.
And then suddenly he started sleeping all night. It was magical. And then the 30 min nap turned into a 2 hour nap. And then it became a 3 hour nap and I was SO thrilled. It was good times. I started getting stuff done.
But now, it’s going away. Nap time is becoming a fight and it keeps getting later and later and is messing with bedtime. We’ve skipped it some days and he did fine, and even went to bed a little earlier.
I am mostly hanging onto it because naptime=metime. I’m not ready for it to go away! I was really hoping it would last until he started kindergarten, lol. I keep trying to tell him, one day, you’ll appreciate a good nap! I know I do.
One of the best things I’ve done since becoming a stay at home mom is join a gym with child care. I have never had quite such a great incentive to go work out. No time for yourself? Kid driving you crazy and you just want to zone out in your own head for an hour? Go to the gym for a stress-relieving hour and a half break!
Of course the only drawback sometimes is that you actually have to workout. Though I confess to pushing the limits of that definition while peddling the recumbent bike on a level one while playing around on my phone. And even better- my gym has a cardio theater! The other day I hung out and watched Suicide Squad while peddling slow enough to fall over if the bike were real.
But just being back at the gym has actually inspired me to start working out for real. I already lost a stubborn 7 pounds I’ve been fighting with for a few months. Five more and I’ll be back to my pre-baby size! Though I think some parts of me are permanently changed in shape just due to housing a child for 10 months in there.
Now that it has become a habit and a welcome break, I actually miss it when I don’t go. I even went on a Sunday last week! Normally I don’t even hit my FitBit step goal on a Sunday so this is quite a change for me.
But I look better, feel better and am happier for the little break every time I go. 🙂
I’m currently in the process of closing my business I’ve run for the past 11 years. I grew it from a little kitchen table eBay enterprise to a real brick and mortar boutique. It was something I dreamed about doing since I was little. I wanted to grow up and own a costume store, so that’s what I did.
I’ve always had my own business. I started at 6, coloring rocks and selling them door-to-door. I can only imagine if there was an Internet back then, I’d have a rock decor empire by now. I started this business making costumes myself and then expanded into retail and then manufacturing my own line of corsets and costume items.
I always said if I had a baby, I’d just keep right on working, and I did just that for the first year. In fact, I couldn’t wait to get back to work. Then a funny thing happened and I couldn’t wait to get back home. Instead of thinking about work all the time, I was looking at photos posted by the daycare and seeing my son playing, painting, learning and doing all the things I wanted to share with him. And here I was, stressing out over other people’s orders and watching my son grow through pictures.
So I decided to take on a new job. If I was going to be a stay at home mom, then darn it, I was going to embrace it and become CEO SAHM. And to do that, I needed to cut out all the distractions and close my store and main website. But, I also can’t stop doing what I love! So I will continue to make costume things for my Etsy shop when I can. I’m not pressuring myself to crank out a huge inventory, or take a lot of custom orders. I plan to just go back to making what I want and posting it for sale.
And if you happen to like costumes, corsets or cosplay – check out the site before I shut it down Dec. 15th. Everything is marked down below wholesale, and there is a still a good bit left: www.3MusesBoutique.com
Since I don’t intend on just sitting around the house, I am on the hunt for activities for my son and I to do now that he is home with me. There’s always the scramble to get the house/work/life stuff done, but I don’t want him sitting around watching me try to get things done. I’m intent on experiencing things together. So I spent this morning scouring the Internet for toddler-friendly activities that are also free or pretty cheap. I’m trying to save money on daycare and not make it up in pricey activities! I actually had a great (and free) morning at the park, where we jogged around the lake a couple times and then he played so much that he took a 2 1/2 hour nap. Score!!
So far I’ve found:
- Barnes & Nobles has free story time
- All the local libraries have free storytime and arts/crafts
- Our museums have a free day but not sure how excited he’d be about that
- The science museum has fun stuff but he’s still too young for the events I saw posted
- There’s a bouncy place called Rebounderz that has special toddler times for $8
- There’s an art class I really want to do called Color Splash but you have to buy the whole month and it’s $90-$110! I wish they just had per class options.
So, I’d love to hear from other SAHM’s about where they find activities and what I should check into!
If you are going to start the stay at home mom thing, I really recommend doing it around the holidays. There’s so much going on and family visiting, and visits to family, that you don’t even realize you’re deep in the SAHM trenches just yet. You have people around. I imagine weeks from now things will be different. Much different. Probably more like next week.
I have thrown myself into the “planning of things.” I joined a Facebook mom group that does lots of activities and a running club for military spouses called Stroller Warriors. And we already do My Gym every week. (it’s a kid’s gym thing)
In the middle of all this I’m still trying to close my website store. My last day open is Dec. 15th. And then I have to move out of my office and workshop and figure out how to work from home. Guess I really enjoy challenging myself!
Hope everyone had a Happy Thanksgiving! I have a ton to be thankful for this year and should probably do a thoughtful post full of love and turkey but this is all I managed to fit in. Got to squeeze in renting X-Men Apocalypse tonight because I am horribly behind on all the new cool movies.